Dating a former fat chick alturnative dating
As a non-single, fat, polyamorous woman, I can't tell you how often I've been questioned about my confidence, self-worth, who I am, and why I'm into what I'm into.If literally the only reason you are interested in me is because I'm fat, you might want to take a step back and get to know a bit about me first. When you tell me I'm not, what you are really saying is that despite my body size, I'm not all those horrible things you tend to associate with fatness.Now my mom lived with her son but without her husband, who had to stay in the city because “there aren't enough jobs out here,” which I found strange because there seemed to be plenty of jobs and “no jobs” didn't explain why Ma cried most nights and why her ma, my grandma, looked at me like I was the garbage someone forgot to take out.
Later, my date asked me if I used to be a "big girl." I was taken aback by the question but answered honestly. Do men look askance at women who used to be overweight, either fearing they'll regain the weight or fearing, like my date last night did, that things won't be "fun" because a newly thin person will be concerned about the way food is prepared and about exercise? Should I lie and say I never had a weight problem or pretend that I don't care what is in my food or that I don't get a chance to do a run on certain days? I know I asked about men, but that is because I am straight and only date men.
The slap of my mother's hand against my bare stomach rings out and fills the entire store. When we lived in Boston, my father would go for runs through the city as I rode my bike beside him, trying to keep up.
I watch as my belly jiggles in the mirror mounted on the large column in front of us. But Dad stayed in Boston and Ma and I moved out to north central Massachusetts.
I purposely have slightly outdated photos of myself for this reason. You can't really tell one pic to another, but in person you can definitely tell. I would consider that scenerio as finding a diamond in the rough.
If you change your pics, they aren't going to remember what you looked like before. I admit that I do look at women who are a bit overweight and see them for their inner beauty and think of what they can achieve as far as their outer beauty.